This morning I attended an advanced fiction
workshop taught by Mary-Rose Hayes (mary-rosehayes.com),
entitled “Don’t Be Afraid of Dialogue."
Medical School and a fashion model in London and San Francisco. She’s even sailed a 41’ sailboat across the Atlantic.
Just as I was sinking into despair over how little
I’ve accomplished in comparison, my friend Jane Andrews, the wonderful writer
and editor based in Raleigh ,
sent me an article this morning from the Huffington Post. Exquisite timing!!
The article’s by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of THE
SIGNATURE OF ALL THINGS and is entitled, “The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself
– and All The Women Around You.” For the full article, please go to huffingtonpost.com.
Please!
In the article, Gilbert urges women to stop
stressing themselves sick over the pathological fear that they simply aren’t doing
enough with their lives. “It's terribly frustrating for me to witness this
endless second-guessing. The problem is,” she says, “I do it, too. Despite
having written five books, I worry that I have not written the right kinds
of books, or that perhaps I have dedicated too much of my life to writing, and
have therefore neglected other aspects of my being. (Like, I could really stand
to lose 10 pounds.)”
Gilbert’s final paragraph has resonance for a lot
of us. “Let's just anticipate that we (all of us) will disappoint ourselves
somehow. Go ahead and let it happen. Let somebody else be a better mother than
you for one afternoon. Let somebody else go to art school. Let somebody else
have a happy marriage, while you foolishly pick the wrong guy. (Hell, I've done
it; it's survivable.) While you're at it, take the wrong job. Move to the wrong
city. Lose your temper in front of the boss, quit training for that marathon,
wolf down a truckload of cupcakes the day after you start your diet. Blow it
all catastrophically, in fact, and then start over with good cheer. This is
what we all must learn to do, for this is how maps get charted – by taking
wrong turns that lead to surprising passageways that open into spectacularly
unexpected new worlds. So just march on. Future generations will thank you – trust me – for showing the way, for beating brave new footpaths out of wonky
old mistakes. Fall flat on your face if you must, but please, for the sake of
us all, do not stop. Map your own life.”
Wow. Once I absorb this, I’ll come back and tell
you what Mary-Rose Hayes had to say in her workshop. Thanks, Jane, and thank
you, Elizabeth Gilbert!
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